The girl who waited.

[forever_wandering]

I'm finally starting to see all the glitches on LJ that everyone has been talking about. Kind of annoying, but I won't be jumping ship just yet. Come on LJ! Pull through! My titles don't show on comment pages and my comments keep getting cut off...


ANYWAY!!

(Meeting for the first time through a mutual friend. Eating Nabe.)
Amazingly delicious!

And I wish I had some right now. I don't know why I did it, but I ate McDonalds for the first time in almost three years, last night. Now, I feel sick to my stomach. Looks like its miso and water for today. 

So, I found out my aunt is getting married the other day. For my family, this is the wedding of the century. My aunt and her boyfriend have been dating for 30 years. I get impatient waiting even three months I guess it's really just a formality since that man is practically already family. 
In any case, I'm really happy for them and I even feel feel admiration towards my aunt. I'm sure she's thought of marriage plenty of times in those 30 years, but not once did they fight over it. I guess that's why they're still together. Instead of worrying about such things, they just enjoyed life. 

Then again, what would they argue about? Obviously neither of them had a fear of commitment since they stuck around each other for so long.... hm,

I know I can't wait 30 years. But, I'd like to me more like my aunt...
In the sense that I have nothing but patience for the man I love. 

LJ, Tell me your thoughts on love and commitment! How important is it to you? 

Comments

[esperity.livejournal.com]

YES! I agree! My friends think that men should always pay for dates, and I'm thinking that's entirely unfair. Which is why, uhm, what's the phrase? Going Dutch? Where you pay half-and-half or at least whatever you bought.

Yeah, but sadly there aren't a lot of instances where women propose to men. D; It's deeply ingrained in society that the guy has to buy the ring and propose.

[kurikuribebi]

Why should men be expected to pay everything all the time? Women can't have their cake and eat it too. You can't complain that your man doesn't have time for you because he's always working, if he's always working because he cant afford to pay every place you wanna go.

With my old boyfriend, if I asked him for a date, I covered it. If he asked me, he covered it. If it was just one of our usual dates, like randomly going out to eat or something, we'd split it.

Though looking back on it now, he might have paid for most of the dates because most of the dates involves going for nice scenic drives. Even though I made our lunches, he always got the gas. Damn.

I would rather a guy NOT present me with a ring right away! I'd rather they ask me if I wanna get married, I accept, then we go together to buy them. Also, I would rather NOT get the ring right away, just in case.

[esperity.livejournal.com]

Oh you are such a breath of fresh air. Some of my friends sometimes their ideas about social situations is so far from my own.

That's awesome! Not everything can be equal when paying for dates and stuff, as it is there's also income differences. Just paying for whatever you can - it's a give and take relationship and whatever works for you will be different for others. O:

That's true, because especially if the guy/girl proposes in the midst of other people like at a restaurant or whatever the person is put on the spot. If the person says no, they look like an asshole. Talking about marriage beforehand will save everyone from embarrassment as everyone is on the same page.

[kurikuribebi]

Oh yeah. Of course money has to be taken In to consideration but... If I know my guy doesn't make as much as I do, I wouldn't invite him to a place I didn't think he could afford, unless it's a special occasion. I think we have to be considerate of each others finances.

Oh yeah! Wasn't that what happened with some guy who proposed at a game around two months ago? The girl said no on camera. Everyone was shocked. I wonder if people do it In public for better odds?

I'm not going to lie. A lot of my ideas are probably influenced by all the complaints I hear from my guy friends about girls and things they do.