The girl who waited.

[forever_wandering]

I'm finally starting to see all the glitches on LJ that everyone has been talking about. Kind of annoying, but I won't be jumping ship just yet. Come on LJ! Pull through! My titles don't show on comment pages and my comments keep getting cut off...


ANYWAY!!

(Meeting for the first time through a mutual friend. Eating Nabe.)
Amazingly delicious!

And I wish I had some right now. I don't know why I did it, but I ate McDonalds for the first time in almost three years, last night. Now, I feel sick to my stomach. Looks like its miso and water for today. 

So, I found out my aunt is getting married the other day. For my family, this is the wedding of the century. My aunt and her boyfriend have been dating for 30 years. I get impatient waiting even three months I guess it's really just a formality since that man is practically already family. 
In any case, I'm really happy for them and I even feel feel admiration towards my aunt. I'm sure she's thought of marriage plenty of times in those 30 years, but not once did they fight over it. I guess that's why they're still together. Instead of worrying about such things, they just enjoyed life. 

Then again, what would they argue about? Obviously neither of them had a fear of commitment since they stuck around each other for so long.... hm,

I know I can't wait 30 years. But, I'd like to me more like my aunt...
In the sense that I have nothing but patience for the man I love. 

LJ, Tell me your thoughts on love and commitment! How important is it to you? 

Comments

[esperity.livejournal.com]

Congrats to your aunt! Weddings are lively and it's an excuse to get all the family together. ;P Unless they prefer a small wedding ceremony and reception.

Oh and I hope you feel better, Mcdonalds food obviously isn't the best. It's frozen food and covered in chemicals in order to preserve it for awhile.

Love and commitment. My friends often say whenever I'm in a relationship I act like a guy. I prefer space, I don't really care if they hang out with other girls. I'm hardly ever jealous. I kind of let the guy call me instead of the other way around. Which is to say, I'm a bad girlfriend. Also I guess I've never loved anyone in a romantic sense (unlike familial). I dated yeah and I thought that the more time I was in a relationship it would grow and change into love but that hasn't been the case. I can be committed and people shouldn't be afraid of commitment. They're usually afraid because in the back of their mind they either don't want to change their lifestyle or they think there may be someone out there that's better. Ex: more handsome/beautiful, richer, more understanding, etc.

Hehe, you asked the question but you didn't talk about your views on love and commitment so it's your turn. ;D

[ltnoin.livejournal.com]

Congrats to your aunt! What a patient lady! I admire that. It's definitely not me :) I've always craved commitment (though no necessarily marriage) myself. Fortunately, I met someone very early on in my life who was quite like-minded. I'm pretty sure I'd still be holding out for that person now if he hadn't come along!

[nari-black.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry it made you sick :( I hope you feel better soon!

[introspicere.livejournal.com]

First of all... I definitely feel bad for you. Feeling sick because of McDonald's? Such a hassle! On the other hand, I do wish my body would reject fast food. It would be a problem, true (as the college lifestyle is hardly healthy), but I'd be forced to eat better, haha! I hope you're feeling better now!

Anyway, congratulations to your aunt! If they were dating for so long, though, why didn't they get married? Did you and/or your family think your aunt was commitment-phobic (at least when it comes to marriage, since that's a huge leap for many people) until she announced the wedding? I'm glad for her, though. It definitely is the wedding of the century. If not, y'know, the past three decades! :)

Now, to answer your question... I've never been in a relationship, so I definitely can't say anything from experience, but I definitely consider commitment important. I'm sure you know about Sternberg's triangular theory of love; in it, the three main components of love are intimacy, passion, and commitment. Intimacy generally characterizes relationships between/among friends; passion, lovers; and commitment... Well, yeah.

So I know nothing about passion (though I've always wanted to), but I respect and admire people who can stay committed for so long, and who try to find ways to keep the relationship strong no matter their differences. I love watching old couples and seeing the state of their relationships. Maybe part of that stems from the fact that there are so many broken families nowadays; I want to know how people have stayed loyal and faithful for so long. I'm thinking that I don't need romance, but if I can have friendships that are just as durable, I'll be just as happy. :)

[chochajin.livejournal.com]

I'm not the right person to ask.
In my 31 years I've had 1.5 relationships, quite short ones, too.
And I'm single now and have been single for the past 7 years.
I don't think that I will ever get in a situation like your aunt anyways ... or another relationship.
I wouldn't mind having another relationship, though. I just don't think it's gonna happen any time soon.