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forever_wanderingFor this entry, everything in ** Is spoken in Japanese. And my friend's name has been changed to S-kun.
*So, S-kun, you wanted to meet to practice English, but...you...haven't really spoken any English. What should we do about that?* I ask as I nibble on my sandwich. *Should I do or say something stupid to make you less shy?*
S-kun doesn't respond, so we both kind of sit there for a while in awkward silence. I figure me pointing out that he's being shy made him feel more shy.
"ACTUALLY,"He blurts out, "I wanna move to the US and work there to improve my English but I would have to meet a person who can support me first cause I don't have money." And then he stares. He just stares at me silently for a good five minutes.
I laugh nervously and say ".....Sorry, can you repeat that in Japanese?"
S-kun suddenly looks at me oddly, and finally, in English he says, "You can't help?"
I switch to Japanese just to make sure he understands what I'm saying. *It sounds like you're saying you don't care about who the person actually is, as long as they have money. That's what I'm understanding from what you said. If you tell me in Japanese, I can translate it correctly for you.*
"Okay!" He says cheerfully. Then in Japanese: *I wanna meet a rich person who can take care of me in the US because I want to learn English there but don't have money. * After a pause he added *A girl is better. American girls now are obsessed with Japanese guys, right?*
Awkward silence. Then he continues *Don't your parents own a house in Tampa?*
I'm like:
Another awkward silence before I finally say, "Hey, you know, I'm kinda hungry," and apparently that was enough to make him forget about the previous conversation we were having. At that moment,
Times like this make me think back to the days when all the guys I knew were shy towards me and thought about half the stuff they were going to say. I think these guys that say too much are the reason I find myself leaning towards the silent type this time around. Lol.
*So, S-kun, you wanted to meet to practice English, but...you...haven't really spoken any English. What should we do about that?* I ask as I nibble on my sandwich. *Should I do or say something stupid to make you less shy?*
S-kun doesn't respond, so we both kind of sit there for a while in awkward silence. I figure me pointing out that he's being shy made him feel more shy.
"ACTUALLY,"He blurts out, "I wanna move to the US and work there to improve my English but I would have to meet a person who can support me first cause I don't have money." And then he stares. He just stares at me silently for a good five minutes.
I laugh nervously and say ".....Sorry, can you repeat that in Japanese?"
S-kun suddenly looks at me oddly, and finally, in English he says, "You can't help?"
I switch to Japanese just to make sure he understands what I'm saying. *It sounds like you're saying you don't care about who the person actually is, as long as they have money. That's what I'm understanding from what you said. If you tell me in Japanese, I can translate it correctly for you.*
"Okay!" He says cheerfully. Then in Japanese: *I wanna meet a rich person who can take care of me in the US because I want to learn English there but don't have money. * After a pause he added *A girl is better. American girls now are obsessed with Japanese guys, right?*
Awkward silence. Then he continues *Don't your parents own a house in Tampa?*
I'm like:
Another awkward silence before I finally say, "Hey, you know, I'm kinda hungry," and apparently that was enough to make him forget about the previous conversation we were having. At that moment,
Times like this make me think back to the days when all the guys I knew were shy towards me and thought about half the stuff they were going to say. I think these guys that say too much are the reason I find myself leaning towards the silent type this time around. Lol.
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Date: 2012-01-30 11:30 pm (UTC)Personally, I never liked the silent types. I always liked the types that were verbal about what they were thinking and wanted to do. Lately though, most of my guys are too familiar and are too verbal. Sometimes I think about what I say, sometimes I don't. In Japanese, I don't really tend to. I tend to blurt something then be like "Hmmm weight. Erase that." lol
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Date: 2012-01-30 11:30 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-01-31 12:07 am (UTC)Quiet boys are good, but it can be difficult to know what they're thinking, and inside they might be thinking worse stuff than people who blurt stuff out all of the time. I guess it prevents awkward moments though?
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Date: 2012-01-31 12:14 am (UTC)And I'm wondering why I never knew of this chart. lol.
Guess he's imagining he can easily date one to move in then taa-daa! He can live his little American dream.
But you know, it doesn't bother me so much that he said it, because I've heard weirder things. It's that he said it so seriously.
Hm. I guess? I don't remember very well what it's like to hang out with quiet boys. I gotta fix that.
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Date: 2012-01-31 12:46 am (UTC)Taka is definitely more of the silent type. Although he does tell me important stuff, it takes a lot of effort to get anything else out of him. It's probably a good balance because I'm the talk incessantly and annoy everyone type, and if we were both like that I can't see it working very well! But, it does mean that sometimes I can tell that something is wrong, but he won't tell me what it is, which ends up annoying me because I don't know whether he's angry at me or whether something has happened to him that's made him sad or... what. At least it's really easy to understand people who say whatever they're thinking. *shrug*
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Date: 2012-01-31 02:26 pm (UTC)You know though, one of my other friends wrote a similar thing on his blog. He wrote he wanted to marry a foreign girl cause "He likes foreign culture and wants to work abroad."
I was like "Hey, Tomo. Whatever happened to marrying for love?"
I don't talk that much. I talk..just enough, I guess. So I like my guys to be able to fill that time that I don't speak, since I hate having awkward silences.
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Date: 2012-01-31 02:47 am (UTC)But at least it didn't leave at a very uncomfortable note as the topics were switched.
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Date: 2012-01-31 02:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-01-31 03:20 am (UTC)I don't care if a guy is the silent type or a noisy kind of guy as long as he puts consideration into what he says. If what he's saying means something most of the time and isn't for the sake of hearing himself speak, I'm willing to overlook the occasional moment of 'Boy, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?!'
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Date: 2012-01-31 02:30 pm (UTC)I like having "BOY WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU!?" Moments, but only when they do something not so WTF and more CUTE. Like...I found my boyfriend laying on my futon reading my cosmos... Thats a cute WTF is wrong with you. I don't mind those.
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Date: 2012-01-31 06:14 am (UTC)Maybe he'll learn a lesson if he actually does get picked up by an american girl.
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Date: 2012-01-31 02:31 pm (UTC)Yeah, she'll milk him dry.
But I doubt he'll find one because from what I understand, only the J-guys who look like manga and anime characters are popular. He's not that ikemen. He's cute, but not ikemen.
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Date: 2012-01-31 11:04 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-01-31 02:33 pm (UTC)Seriously though, no way. I don't want a guy I have to care for. I don't want a guy to care for me either. I want it to be even.
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Date: 2012-02-02 06:58 am (UTC)At least he didn't persist in asking you to support him in the US lol
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Date: 2012-02-02 06:08 pm (UTC)