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It's the Baby Blues, Baby.
May. 23rd, 2012 10:13 amIt feels like every time I take a breath, another one of my friends announces they're pregnant. Every time I check an email, it usually goes something a long the lines of, "I haven't been up to much but my kid blah blah blah." My facebook feed is filled with pictures of children I've only met once or twice. I don't even remember what half my friends look like, but I'd be able to identify their child from a mile away.
Now, I don't have a problem with that. I love kids, especially when they belong to other people. What I don't like however, is when these people tell me, "You're going to be so happy when you have your own child!" because the truth is that despite not having a child, I'm already pretty happy with my life. I may not have a child, but I also have no regrets in life. I don't need a child to feel like I've accomplished something amazing because I already feel that way. Whenever they say things like that to me, I feel like they're telling me that the life I live now really isn't that great and won't be until I have a toddler of my own running around.
Maybe that's not their intention, but their constantly pushing that idea on me is making begin to feel like I need a child even though I don't particularly want one right now. I look forward to having a kid of my own some day, but it's really annoying having the idea of needing one to be happy seemingly shoved down my throat.
So, why not just tell them that I don't appreciate the comment? I've thought of this, of course, and on both occasions that I've tried it, the answers I received were more or less along the lines of "You just don't get it now, but you will soon enough."
I see. So, first I'm not happy and now I'm too stupid to get it. Apparently having a kid gives you magical powers? I really don't think it works that way at all.
It's really sad that it's not kids themselves, but parents that are turning me away from wanting to become a mother myself some day.
Note: If any of my friends on my F-list who have recently had a baby or are expecting feel offended by this, I apologize. As I stated though, my issue is only with the annoying "new mothers" of the world =)
Now, I don't have a problem with that. I love kids, especially when they belong to other people. What I don't like however, is when these people tell me, "You're going to be so happy when you have your own child!" because the truth is that despite not having a child, I'm already pretty happy with my life. I may not have a child, but I also have no regrets in life. I don't need a child to feel like I've accomplished something amazing because I already feel that way. Whenever they say things like that to me, I feel like they're telling me that the life I live now really isn't that great and won't be until I have a toddler of my own running around.
Maybe that's not their intention, but their constantly pushing that idea on me is making begin to feel like I need a child even though I don't particularly want one right now. I look forward to having a kid of my own some day, but it's really annoying having the idea of needing one to be happy seemingly shoved down my throat.
So, why not just tell them that I don't appreciate the comment? I've thought of this, of course, and on both occasions that I've tried it, the answers I received were more or less along the lines of "You just don't get it now, but you will soon enough."
I see. So, first I'm not happy and now I'm too stupid to get it. Apparently having a kid gives you magical powers? I really don't think it works that way at all.
It's really sad that it's not kids themselves, but parents that are turning me away from wanting to become a mother myself some day.
Note: If any of my friends on my F-list who have recently had a baby or are expecting feel offended by this, I apologize. As I stated though, my issue is only with the annoying "new mothers" of the world =)
