A working wife and the lazy Husband

[forever_wandering]

I had planned on getting a lot of reading done today. Last month, I started reading 神様のカルテ, but with all the company I've been having and all my traveling, I haven't been able to get past page 15. I made the mistake of turning on my laptop in bed though, and we all know what that means, right? Now it is almost evening and the most I've done is take the book off the shelf. Darn. I'll definitely read before I go to bed though.
I've noticed that my comprehension is a lot better than what I had assumed. Even though I can't read a lot of the kanji, I know what they mean, and so I am able to actually understand the content I am reading. M-san is constantly trying to trick me in to using my Japanese or asking me how my Japanese studies are going. I simply laugh and and answer, "What are you talking about?" But the truth is...I actually am working pretty hard. 

EDIT: Since writing this paragraph, I've fallen asleep three times. So much for reading before bed! 

M-san and I were talking and he started joking about getting married. He then said that I'd get a job while he stayed home. You know, I'm totally up for that idea because I honestly don't see myself staying at home all day cooking and cleaning and all that mess. I'd much rather be out interacting with other people. When I told him I was alright with the idea, he seemed surprised.
I didn't tell him this but I really like the idea of a stay-at-home dad. I appreciate women who give everything up to stay home and take care of their family, but there is something about watching a father with his child that just...it makes my heart so happy in ways I can't explain.  I know with the way things are, both my significant other and I would have to work to make ends meet, but if the time ever came that one of us had to leave our job, I would rather it be him than me. 

What about you? Do you want to be the bread-winner? The house wife/husband? Both? Why? 

M-san and I went to Disney and had a blast. The lines at each attraction were rather long so we had many interesting conversations as we waited. As usual, we argued. He wanted to plan out each attraction we'd go to and I wanted to just go with the flow. I called him controlling, he called me a slacker. We got on Space mountain and forgot all about it once we got off. We seem to have a lot of stupid arguments over things like this, but the fact that we can forget about it in less than five minutes is always great. 

We had a good laugh that morning too, by the way. In the picture, I'm wearing a black shirt and blue jean shorts. He's wearing a blue shirt and khaki pants. When we both walked out of our rooms first thing in the morning, we were both wearing black shirts and khaki shorts, but we both ended up changing because I flipped out over the fact that we looked like a couple. Haha! 

COUPLE CLOTHING = NO
I don't get why couples need to dress alike to show that they're together. I don't believe of making a show out of one's relationship.... To me, it's no different than having your SO/you being on a leash. 
The only time it's acceptable is during Halloween. 

Comments

[ltnoin.livejournal.com]

Right now, I am the bread-winner, and my husband has been looking for a job. It has been really hard for him to find one since he moved to the USA >< If the experience of being the only one working has taught me anything, it's that ideally BOTH of the partners ought to be making money, especially if kids are in the picture. The only reason we can survive on one income is because we don't have kids to support, otherwise I don't see how it could be done!

In a perfect world where I made like a million dollars a year, maybe I would be OK with my husband being the stay at home dad. I like being out of the house and working. The only problem is that it's hard to find a man who will actually do things like cook and clean up the house while you're away XD Definitely make sure your guy will be willing to do that before you commit!! Haha!! My husband definitely spends the majority of his free time playing videogames ... so I don't know if he could manage taking care of a house and a kid. Scary thought :P

[kurikuribebi]

Yeah, now a days, it's best if both work...But I'm dreaming of getting married in a future where one income would be enough =P From what I've often seen, couples with both people working usually end up falling apart rather quickly. I don't know if that's completely because of the different work schedules or the people themselves, but that's what I've usually seen...So it scares me.

Ahaha. I never thought of whether M-san would be able to do that. He doesn't seem to like messes, so I guess he would. Or I'll make him. Ha! He's the one who offered to stay home in the first place.

I'm pretty sure if you left him with a child, he'd wisen up. He'd feed the child to keep it quiet while he played games, at least =D

[starling27.livejournal.com]

I think the problem (sorry fir butting in here) with those couples is that when you're separated for most of your day, you start to forget how to have fun and be comfortable around your partner. And you're both so tired, neither can make the effort. Ive been in a family where it happened to my parents, luckily my mum had to change jobs due to the lights in the shop giving her migraines, she switched back to her old part time job of cleaning for the elderly. When that happened, my parents relationship really improved. And my dad has reached retirement age, so is cutting down the hours so he's spending more time with my mum and making an effort, which is nice to see. Its gone from them just staying married because they couldn't afford to be separated to them being married because they love each other an are happy together.

So i wouldn't feel scared bout marriage (i was, upto recently), when you've worked the dynamics out, it does work. :)

And if it doesn't, nevermind, back to the drawing board, nowt to stop you from trying again. Im not saying "do it, do it now" but i am saying don't let fear hold ya back from things that might give you some happiness.

[kurikuribebi]

No problem. I jump in to people's conversations all the time if I have something worth listening to, to say =)
That's exactly what happens. So is it the work environment that's to blame or the individuals for forgetting? In any case, I don't want to go through that.