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A working wife and the lazy Husband

I had planned on getting a lot of reading done today. Last month, I started reading 神様のカルテ, but with all the company I've been having and all my traveling, I haven't been able to get past page 15. I made the mistake of turning on my laptop in bed though, and we all know what that means, right? Now it is almost evening and the most I've done is take the book off the shelf. Darn. I'll definitely read before I go to bed though.
I've noticed that my comprehension is a lot better than what I had assumed. Even though I can't read a lot of the kanji, I know what they mean, and so I am able to actually understand the content I am reading. M-san is constantly trying to trick me in to using my Japanese or asking me how my Japanese studies are going. I simply laugh and and answer, "What are you talking about?" But the truth is...I actually am working pretty hard.

EDIT: Since writing this paragraph, I've fallen asleep three times. So much for reading before bed!

M-san and I were talking and he started joking about getting married. He then said that I'd get a job while he stayed home. You know, I'm totally up for that idea because I honestly don't see myself staying at home all day cooking and cleaning and all that mess. I'd much rather be out interacting with other people. When I told him I was alright with the idea, he seemed surprised.
I didn't tell him this but I really like the idea of a stay-at-home dad. I appreciate women who give everything up to stay home and take care of their family, but there is something about watching a father with his child that just...it makes my heart so happy in ways I can't explain. I know with the way things are, both my significant other and I would have to work to make ends meet, but if the time ever came that one of us had to leave our job, I would rather it be him than me.

What about you? Do you want to be the bread-winner? The house wife/husband? Both? Why?

M-san and I went to Disney and had a blast. The lines at each attraction were rather long so we had many interesting conversations as we waited. As usual, we argued. He wanted to plan out each attraction we'd go to and I wanted to just go with the flow. I called him controlling, he called me a slacker. We got on Space mountain and forgot all about it once we got off. We seem to have a lot of stupid arguments over things like this, but the fact that we can forget about it in less than five minutes is always great.

We had a good laugh that morning too, by the way. In the picture, I'm wearing a black shirt and blue jean shorts. He's wearing a blue shirt and khaki pants. When we both walked out of our rooms first thing in the morning, we were both wearing black shirts and khaki shorts, but we both ended up changing because I flipped out over the fact that we looked like a couple. Haha!

COUPLE CLOTHING = NO
I don't get why couples need to dress alike to show that they're together. I don't believe of making a show out of one's relationship.... To me, it's no different than having your SO/you being on a leash.
The only time it's acceptable is during Halloween.

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I think SAH fathers are sweet too. Though I don't actually see it done much. I don't mind the idea of being a SAHM though either. I ahve 6 months off now to start mummyhood, but a big part of me would love more so I can be there for my children 24/7.

Was that Tokyo Disney you went to?

I hear that it changes a lot in women. A lot of my friends claimed they'd be working women all their lives. Then they got pregnant and the idea of being a SAHM seemed great. I wonder if that's just part of the first child magic?

This was Disney in Florida. We took a trip to Orlando =D
Tokyo Disney isn't as much fun for the grown folk. Disney Sea is where the fun is at!

I love Florida Disneyworld!! We went there beginning of 2010. Which hotel did you stay in?

We didn't stay at a hotel. My parents have a house in Tampa, so we stayed with them and then drove over. We plan on going back and staying at...ah, I forget the name, but it's the beautiful white hotel on an island in the middle of the lake between Hollywood studios and Magic Kingdom.

Awww, you and him do look pretty cute together though. *nudges you* I agree with you on couple clothing. It doesn't make sense to me at all.

As for who would be the bread winner, why that'd be me *strikes a pose* Cuz I am awesome.

You sound like you are really tired, so I hope you have a good evening and get some of that reading done you wanted to get done, before crashing. :)

Aha. Everyone always says that to us and we always force this look of disgust on to our faces...But sometimes I do think we look kind of cute together.

Well, I'm glad you know you're awesome! =D =D =D I'm not gonna lie, I'd love to be the bread winner so that one day I can say "Well, thats MY money you're using for blah blahh." I always see men pulling that stunt on TV but I've yet to see a woman do it. Not fair.

These days, I've been getting tired so easily. I might have just burned myself out these past two months. No reading got done. Maybe tomorrow!

Did you say something about clothes? I'm sorry, I was too distracted by those arms! lol, If he's going to be all jealous about you hanging out with other guys, I'd demand that he never whip those guns out in front of any other women! :P

I can't answer the question, because I don't have any desire to get married either way, but I agree with couple clothing = NO. It's just a horrible idea all around.

Oh goodness. I LOLed for real! The first time I touched those arms was when we were riding on the train. I couldn't reach the hand rails above our head, so I held on to his arm instead. I kept thinking "Dear God. What are these?!" I think he noticed the look on my face because he got all red. Haha. But he's constantly throwing them in my face now.

You know, I've never seen him show them off with other girls, actually. Haha. His abs on the other hand... but then again, he's male and you know how males are with their six packs.

At the moment, I have no desire to get married either, but if I ever did, I would definitely be the bread-winner.

Agreed- couples clothing is definently a no-no. That also goes for girls who dress exactly like their friends, so it looks like cloning gone wrong. Oh so horribly wrong and its always with the worst outfits and they all link up arm in arm, displaying their failed gene link!!

But saying that occasionally me and ben have done it by accident and havent noticed till one of us takes a jumper or jacket off and bam bith got blue jeans and checked shirts on...damnit!!

Im having to be a stay at home wife/mother in my future, despite the fact im really not cut out for it, childbirth would near enough kill me due to many problems, cant stand babies, cant cook or clean or tidy ir organise well. The inly thing im good with is technology, if something techy needs doing - im the girl! But if i could, i would work. I would perfer both of us to work, prehaps both part time if we could afford it. Im trying to make myself talented with crafts ~~its not working~~ to sell on eBay. Ive already had interest in making one of my photos i took recently into posters to sell - my future niece was like "i would buy that" so hey ho there may be future yet :) and I'm hoping when i finally get my official autism diagnosis i can get some well needed help with things - making life manageable. You have no idea how much I'm looking forward to that, oh my days!!

I know my friends and I have been guilty of accidentally wearing similar things, but we never walk around linked arm in arm showing it off. If possible, one of us will change. If not, we keep a little more distance between us.

It's unavoidable, I think, to dress alike on some occasions if you spend a lot of time together. It can't be helped if you develop similar tastes, after all, but to purposely buy and then wear matching clothes? Eck.

I'm pretty sure he enjoys it though, to a degree, because he took the time to point out to me that he changed only because I flipped out. Over fries he casually says "Did you see I'm wearing a blue shirt now? I changed for you." Lol. Wth M-san.

M-san and I aren't dating just yet but people around us always treat us as and talk to us as a unit, so whenever something happens that makes us seem super coupley, I flip out.

Selling on Ebay is a great idea! I hope that works out well for you! Even if it doesn't pan out in the end, you can say you tried, you know? And good luck getting the help you need. Do you know when you'll be diagnosed? Hopefully you can get things under control and do a lot of things you'd like to do!

Aww bless, does sound like youre a couple :) nevermind, eh.

I got a referral to be tested, but got a copy of the letter my doc received back about it saying they dont do the testing anymore and so to ring the medical official of the area, oo-er :/

But because my doc only works part time and ive been distracted by other medical problems ~~erhhh!!!~~ i havent been able to chase it up ~~well aware I'm starting to become one of those people who just go on and on about their lack of health, blurgh!!~~ so when i come back home, I'm ready to crack her ass!!

Aaaaaah, I get so annoyed when these professionals start making us run in circles. I'd definitely start getting on their case about it all!

Right now, I am the bread-winner, and my husband has been looking for a job. It has been really hard for him to find one since he moved to the USA >< If the experience of being the only one working has taught me anything, it's that ideally BOTH of the partners ought to be making money, especially if kids are in the picture. The only reason we can survive on one income is because we don't have kids to support, otherwise I don't see how it could be done!

In a perfect world where I made like a million dollars a year, maybe I would be OK with my husband being the stay at home dad. I like being out of the house and working. The only problem is that it's hard to find a man who will actually do things like cook and clean up the house while you're away XD Definitely make sure your guy will be willing to do that before you commit!! Haha!! My husband definitely spends the majority of his free time playing videogames ... so I don't know if he could manage taking care of a house and a kid. Scary thought :P

Yeah, now a days, it's best if both work...But I'm dreaming of getting married in a future where one income would be enough =P From what I've often seen, couples with both people working usually end up falling apart rather quickly. I don't know if that's completely because of the different work schedules or the people themselves, but that's what I've usually seen...So it scares me.

Ahaha. I never thought of whether M-san would be able to do that. He doesn't seem to like messes, so I guess he would. Or I'll make him. Ha! He's the one who offered to stay home in the first place.

I'm pretty sure if you left him with a child, he'd wisen up. He'd feed the child to keep it quiet while he played games, at least =D

I think the problem (sorry fir butting in here) with those couples is that when you're separated for most of your day, you start to forget how to have fun and be comfortable around your partner. And you're both so tired, neither can make the effort. Ive been in a family where it happened to my parents, luckily my mum had to change jobs due to the lights in the shop giving her migraines, she switched back to her old part time job of cleaning for the elderly. When that happened, my parents relationship really improved. And my dad has reached retirement age, so is cutting down the hours so he's spending more time with my mum and making an effort, which is nice to see. Its gone from them just staying married because they couldn't afford to be separated to them being married because they love each other an are happy together.

So i wouldn't feel scared bout marriage (i was, upto recently), when you've worked the dynamics out, it does work. :)

And if it doesn't, nevermind, back to the drawing board, nowt to stop you from trying again. Im not saying "do it, do it now" but i am saying don't let fear hold ya back from things that might give you some happiness.

No problem. I jump in to people's conversations all the time if I have something worth listening to, to say =)
That's exactly what happens. So is it the work environment that's to blame or the individuals for forgetting? In any case, I don't want to go through that.

Couple clothing always amuses me. ^__^

I think it's great that you wouldn't mind him being a stay-at-home dad. Some women wouldn't like it. Since I'm disabled, I'm sort-of like a stay-at-home-wifey-person-thing; I like to clean the house and do little things and my mom(whom I live with) likes to garden and do outside things......We're a couple! O_O I'm just glad we don't dress alike! XD

Sometimes it's done in a cute way. It still makes me go "Ew," but I do give them some points for making it look...somewhat tolerable. For the most part though I'm like "Ag, what!?" I have a friend who enjoys purposely going to flirt with a guy dressed in couple clothing. The other girl's reaction is always amusing.

Ah haha! Give it a few years and you'll be dressing alike, I'm sure. Kidding, kidding. If you enjoy doing things like that, there is nothing wrong with it. I don't dislike cooking and cleaning and such. I'll do it when it needs to be done. I would just rather be elsewhere.

You guys look adorables ♥ M-san is very handsome.
Personnally to answer your question about being the bread-winner in my future marriage, I would say first that I would privilege my career to a possible marriage. So I think I would stay an active woman while I'll be married (meaning in a loooong time). I'm pretty okay with you. I couldn't bear to be a housewife, I mean, I hate depending on other, I won't bear to depend on my husband. I would be able to make my own money. I'm sure that we can lead family and a career at the same time without being a wonder woman.

GO TO BED !:P

Thanks! I'd tell him that but I don't want it to go to his head. He's been pretty cocky these days =P

I could definitely be wonder woman (cooking, cleaning, working) if I had to, but yeah, I don't WANT to. Hehe. A man's home is his kingdom, so a man should stay at home and defend it =P

Good theory !

The pictures are absolutely lovely!! :-)

I know that if I stay home for long and slack of I become really distressed. Being on a sick leave for a week is enough to make me lose it! So when the time comes and we're gonna start a family with my significant other I'm really gonna appreciate the time spent together as a family. It doesn't matter which one of us goes on parental leave as long as both 'live' for the child. I'd prefer us both working though.

Thanks a lot =)

Yeah, I'm the same way. If I sit around for too long, I'm like UGHHHHH. I always need something to do. This is why my schedule book is always a nice array of colors =D
Of course, if I work, I plan on making time for my family. That's a given. I just think I'd rather have him at home all day while I work my little butt off instead of just being at home myself. Realistically, we'll both have to work, but in my perfect world, I'd be working and he'll be at home waiting for me with delicious salads and chicken.

sorry I'm a bit out of your life recently >.<
is a guy in the picture .. is he your boyfriend??

btw.. I have the same opinion toward matching clothes, for me it is so stupid idea, do it just to show others =__=

ah woman who stay at home are awesome, especially if they love that they take care of house and kids, cause some of them treat it as a prision, I think people like this show try to find balance instead of forcing themselves

Ahaha. No worries.
No, he's not my boyfriend. I'm not sure what kind of relationship we have though. More than friends but not dating =)

Haha, couple clothing is totally gross! For whatever reason, it always seems to be the worst outfits, too, like head-to-toe denim. *puke*

Oh God. Head-to-toe denim. Trends always come back every few years, so I know this one will be back sometime soon. I'm dreading it.

I would definitely prefer to be the bread-winner. I go stir crazy when I'm at home for too long and I don't like being reliant on other people's money. Mooching isn't my thing.
Also, I can't cook.

100% agree on the subject of couple clothing.

That seems to be most people's excuse for not wanting to be a housewife-- they just go crazy at home. I always assumed it would be simply because they wanted to socialize.

I think if you become a housewife, you'll spend more time looking at cookbooks and will learn to cook? A lot of my friends magically learned to cook after settling down.

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